1 Peter 3:1-7 (Part 3)

1 Peter 3:1-7

[From part 2]

Wives are to do good and trust themselves to God, not fearing any terror.

Why? Because Jesus Christ has lived and died and risen for your eternal safety.

Another, less certain, reason is that her husband ought to be obedient to the word.

‘Likewise (in the same way — i.e. as followers of Jesus Christ who suffered for us) men, keep on dwelling with your wives according to knowledge, as with the weaker vessel.’

Husbands are not to stray from home. They are to dwell with their wives according to knowledge.

Now Men, our wives submission is not an excuse for us to be rat-bags.

My parents were not Christians. My mum and dad divorced when I was five years old. Mum told me years later that there was a time before the divorce, while dad was in full employment, during which the Salvation Army provided food for herself and five young children.

My dad hadn’t got into husband mode. He still wanted to live like a single man going out with the boys. He failed to provide adequately for his family.

We who are husbands are to dwell with our wives. To support them as best we can.

We ought to know them better than we know any other human being. We shouldn’t have a best friend outside of our home. Every other human being must come second after our wives.

We are to live with them as with the ‘weaker’ vessel.

This does not mean ‘weaker’ in mind or character or morals as some unhappy people used to imagine. Why the ‘weaker’ vessel?

First ‘weaker’ refers to the physical fact that men tend to be stronger than their wives. We men are to understand this and to keep ourselves under control.

Men can be angry people sometimes. We are to control our tempers. We must not give way to out-bursts of rage. Some men are violent toward their wives. This must not happen with us. A man who trusts Jesus Christ must not do such a thing. Paul tells us that a husband is to treat their wives as Christ did the church.

Christ died to ensure the safety of his beloved.

Husband ought to have the same determination in supporting and protecting their wives.

Now, our God is not ignorant of the fact that some husbands are more obviously dysfunctional than other husbands.

The example of Abigail, the wife of Nabal, is to the point (1 Samuel 25).

David, before his became king, was an outlaw. He was chased all over the country-side by Saul who wanted David dead.

David in the meantime was doing what Saul ought to have been doing. Protecting Israelites from their enemies.

David had been protecting Nabal and his large household for months, but Nabal was a drunkard and a fool. He refused to give David any supplies in return for all his help. David was on his way to visit Nabal, and he wasn’t happy.

Abigail disobeyed her husband’s command, and took enough food and wine for David and his men and by that act prevented a disaster. Abigail, the bible tells us, was an intelligent woman.

She was commended for her actions.

Abigail protected her family but it involved an act of disobedience. An act of defiance to an unjust and foolishly abused authority.

There are times when wives are now placed in similar situations today by foolish husbands.

Submission is an act of intelligence and courage. But sometimes a wife needs to use those same qualities in resisting unjust and dangerous misuse of authority for the safety of herself and her children.

A second way in which the wife is a ‘weaker’ vessel is because of passages like 1 Peter 3. God has placed men in a position of power. Wives are told to submit to their own husbands.

Our saviour God placed our wives under our authority. We must keep this in mind.  We are not to take advantage of our wives just because ‘I’m the Boss, God says so’.

Our wives’ safety, needs, and desires must be extremely important to us. We should listen carefully to what our wives say to us.

Husbands are not founts of all wisdom. Wives deal with things each day that we know little of, things about which we need to know if good decisions are going to be made.

We are to dwell with our wives according to knowledge.

We are to support, protect and love our wives, or die in the attempt (repeat that)

We also need to recognise that we are heirs together of the grace of life.

Christ Jesus has lived a life of submission, has died our death for us, and has risen again to give everlasting life to sinful people like us. We have this promise before us. We are to live as people who have hope, who have everything in Christ.

Wives are not to submit to their husbands because their husbands are so good, nor are husbands to love and support their wives because their wives are submissive.

It is not a tit for tat arrangement. Wives are to submit to their own husbands because Christ, who is their saviour and example, has called them to it.

Husbands are to love and protect their own wives because Christ who is their saviour and example has called them to it.

Peter says that husbands and wives are ‘heirs together of the grace of life’. Husbands and wives are brothers and sisters in Christ and so are under double obligation to care for and love one another.

This love is to be nurtured so that ‘our prayers might not be hindered’. Trouble in the house can mess with our spiritual life as nothing else can.

We have every reason to respond to the mercy of God in the ways he reveals in his word.

God help us.

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1 Peter 2: 13 – 24 (Part 1)

In this section of his letter, Peter talks about submission, and why it is what Christians ought to do.

Our submission to the Lord Jesus Christ is the reasonable response to his rescuing of us from sin and death. Once we were not the people of God. In fact we were his enemies and we were heading toward a well deserved judgement. But we were brought out of the darkness of our rebellious ways by the obedience of Christ. We were saved from death by the death and resurrection of Christ. Those who trust the Lord Jesus have every reason to love, serve and praise him.

Because the Lord Jesus is the ultimate authority in heaven and earth, because he predestined our situation in life — whether we are prime minister or tax payer, slave or free, boss or employee, married or single — we are to submit to him in whatever circumstance we might find ourselves. And we are to submit in appropriate ways for the sake of our Lord Jesus Christ.

The word ‘submit’ is an interesting one.

Literally it means to ‘arrange yourself under’, so it is an act of will. Again, part of the original Greek word gives us the word ‘tactics’, so submission also implies the use of our intelligence in submitting to authority. We are to submit to, bring ourselves into conformity with, every law made by an appropriate authority because our saviour wants us to do so.

The submission that Peter and the Holy Spirit urges us to show is not blind conformity. It is intelligent and willing obedience to lawful commands from Federal and State Parliaments down to local council by laws.

These ordinances include taxes, speed limits, court-orders, registrations, licenses and regulations (like swimming pool fences).

Why is this important?

One reasons is that our God is a God of order and peace. A peaceful and orderly society is a benefit. It is a good thing.  Nothing is more frustrating, debilitating and dangerous than chaos.

Now you might consider some laws and regulations very frustrating in themselves, but this doesn’t mean that the solution to your frustration is to ignore these laws. If everyone did that the problems and frustrations would just get so much worse.

You might remember the riots in the UK several months ago.  Some people believed an injustice had occurred. They were frustrated and took the law into their own hands. The result was that many more injustices occurred which led to much greater frustration, damage and loss.

There are systems in place in society to suggest and accomplish change. But these means of change are themselves the result of laws and regulations.

Another reason is the point Peter made in verse 12 of this chapter.  We are God’s people who are social outcasts — our faith makes us objects of suspicion. People regard our trusting of Jesus Christ to be offensive. Our confession is a message that people are wrong and will face terrible judgement. Christians believe that our only hope is that a man call Jesus Christ died and rose from the dead to save us because nothing else will. So people think of Christians as judgemental and weird.

Our good behaviour within the community, within society, is important because we must not give any ground for just criticism. We are to be careful not to give our Holy and Good Saviour a bad reputation by our bad behaviour. The only thing about us that should give offence, if offence is taken, must only be our following of Jesus Christ.

Peter actually says that our socially responsible behaviour is what God wills so that we ‘might silence the ignorance of unthinking people’.

Our public and private well-doing is to deal with prejudice. It is to correct the wrong thinking of the community. It might even get people thinking about our main message, which is not ‘moral behaviour’ but the free gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

The Lord Jesus has made us free, but our freedom is from sin and death. It is not freedom from living responsibly in the world. We are not, Peter says, to use our Christian freedom as a ‘cover’, as a reason for bad or disrespectful behaviour. We are not to say, ‘Well, Jesus has set me free, so get out of my way! I’m not going to be restricted by you (insert name)’.

We need to know that the ‘king’, when Peter was writing his letter, was probably someone like Nero. Nero was a moral monster and probably certifiably mad, if the historian Suetonius can be believed. Yet Peter says we are to honour the king since the king or ruling party is established by God (c.f. Rom 13). In showing respect to the king we are ultimately showing respect to the God who, for his own good reasons, put that ‘king’ in power.

For this reason, we need to show respect. We might not like the Prime Minister or the Premier or the local police officer. That is irrelevant. We are to treat them with respect for the sake of their office. These people hold their office because God put them there, and they will hold that office until God removes them.

We are to submit to these powers for the same reason. We are to use our minds in doing this. We are to be tactical (not tricky, but wise) in our dealings with authority. For the most part, human laws do not require us to do anything that God forbids.

Only rarely do circumstances arise that require Christians to say ‘No’ to authority. Peter himself said ‘No’ to the ruling council in Jerusalem (Acts 4), when they told them not to speak of Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ had told Peter to speak. Peter, in this particular, case was right to obey God rather than human beings. It is a rare example. Even laws that we don’t like are usually not the sort that call for civil disobedience.

To recap, Jesus did not save us so we could become rat-bags.

We are to treat all people with respect, to love our fellow Christian (even those who irk us), to give reverence to our God and to honour the Government and its representatives.

(continued in Part 2)

1 Peter 2: 13 – 24 (Part 2)

(continued from Part 1)

We are to treat all people with respect, to love our fellow Christian (even those who irk us), to give reverence to our God and to honour the Government and its representatives.

Why? Because ultimately we are God’s slaves. We have been bought with a price, the precious life of Jesus. He died to bring us back to God. He rose to give us new life and new attitudes. We serve him, in part, by aiming to be good citizens.

We are to submit to our employers as well.

The people to whom Peter wrote were not socially influential. Some of them might once have been employers, and some might once have been rich and powerful. But as outcasts and strangers because they had come to trust Jesus, some were now slaves and others were perhaps in jobs that just keep body and soul together.

A motive to do what the boss says might simply be to avoid a beating if you are a slave, or to keep the job that you need to survive, but this is not the motive that Peter urges on Christians.

Peter tells the household slaves to submit to their masters for Jesus’ sake, because ultimately we are slaves to the best of Masters, the Lord Jesus Christ.

Peter knows that some masters can be twisted, harsh, unthinking and uncaring. He knows that some masters mistreat their slaves even when the slaves are doing a good job.

Peter tells Christian slaves to submit to them and patiently bear the mistreatment.

But he goes even further.

Peter says it is better to be treated badly for doing good and taking that mistreatment patiently, than to keep doing the wrong thing and taking punishment patiently.

Why? We are to keep doing good while suffering wrong because we are to imitate Christ. We are not to keep doing wrong and taking punishment patiently, because our bad behaviour brings Christ into disrepute. We need to use our minds — to think of consequences beyond our own preferences.

We are to imitate the example – Christ’s ‘copy book’ — that Jesus has left for us.

The Greek word for ‘example’ literally means to ‘write under’. It refers to the way little children learn to write by copying the letters that someone else had written for them. They followed the example given. We are to see the pattern of the life of Jesus Christ, and do as he did. We might not always get it right (see the copybook above), but we are to make our best efforts for Jesus’ sake.

We are to follow in his footsteps – imitate his way of life (walking is a metaphor for living)

What did Jesus do? He…

  •  Did good
  • Did not speak deceptively
  • Did not bad-mouth those who abused him
  • Did not threaten (he has legions of angels at his command but did not use them in his own defence)
  • Committed his case to God who acts justly – (cf. Rom 12)

Christ suffered unjustly – the rulers killed an innocent man – but when he suffered, he suffered for our sins, so that when he died, he died our death for us. The injustice of Christ’s death came from sinful human reaction to his life of obedience to the God we hated. That is where the injustice lies.

God was not unjust in sending His Son to live and die and rise to save us. Those acts of God were not unjust, rather, they were merciful – a demonstration of God’s goodness to bad people. God himself made himself the legal surety for his people. He would pay their debt for them. What God did was just and kind. What we did to him was unjust, because Jesus did no wrong. He had no case to answer when he was accused. What we intended for evil, God intended for good.

When Jesus died for our sins, we died to sin in Him. Hebrews tells us that for the joy set before him, Jesus went to the cross for our sakes, despising the shame, so we might be saved. In suffering unjustly, the Lord Jesus submitted to the will of God and his submission brought about great good for undeserving people like us. When we submitt to unjust treatment, God intends good to come from it.

We were lost sheep, and our good shepherd came for us. He cares for us. He has brought us back to the God we had offend, and he brought us back forgiven and acceptable to our God.

For the sake of the cross of Christ, we are to live a life of submission to the circumstances God has placed us in. We do this so that Christ might be known as a God worth serving, as a God who saves bad people and changes their out-look on life (v.12).